Why I Still Travel Solo (And Why You Should Too)
There’s an of internal monologue that happens the moment you book a solo flight as a parent. It usually starts with excitement and ends with a heavy dose of "is this selfish?"
I’ve travelled across the globe alone, with friends, and with my kids in tow. But since becoming a mum, my solo trips have become the most important dates on my calendar. They aren't about escaping my life; they are about remembering who I am outside of it.
If you’ve been hovering over the "book now" button for a solo weekend but haven't pulled the trigger, here is the no-nonsense reality of why it’s worth it, and how to make it happen.
Reclaiming Your "Travel Reflexes"
When you travel with kids, you are a logistics manager. I’m thinking about snack intervals, nap schedules, and what is a realistic timeframe to be out and about for. When you travel on your own, those reflexes shift back to you. You eat when you’re hungry, walk until you’re tired, and change your plans on a whim. Relearning how to make decisions for yourself is the ultimate reset button.
The "Guilt" vs. The Reality
We worry that our kids will feel left out, but the reality? Out of site really is out of mind! They get quality time with their other parent or grandparents, and they see a version of you that is energised and inspired.
I make sure in the run up to my trip I tell my boys about my plans, how long I will be away and, of course, always promise a present upon my return! I also promise to call each day, but when I am away they end up not even being bothered to speak to me much.
Proof of Capability
There is a massive confidence boost in navigating a foreign city, a delayed flight, or a language barrier entirely on your own. I find it reminds me that I am are capable, resourceful, and adventurous, something that sometimes get buried under the routine of daily life at home.
How to Actually Make it Happen: The Logistics
If the "how" is stopping you, here is my 3-step strategy for a stress-free getaway:
The "Handover" Folder: I leave a simple digital plan for whoever is staying with the kids. It includes the school schedule, information on what events are happening when, and timings for things. In reality, this should not be needed but as mum’s we carry the load and at least this way you won’t be pestered with questions!
Start Small: Your first solo trip doesn't have to be a two-week trek through South America. Try a 48-hour city break in a place with easy public transport and on the same time zone to keep in regular contact if needed.
The No-Check-In Rule: While you're away, resist the urge to FaceTime every hour. Set one specific time to call home so you can spend the rest of your day fully present in your new surroundings.
The Bottom Line: You are allowed to have a bucket list that doesn't involve a stroller.
What’s on your bucket list?
